From a spiritual lens, love is often defined by —a Greek term for unconditional, selfless love. This isn't a love based on the worthiness of the recipient, but on the character of the giver.
In many traditions, the divine act of creation is an act of love. Similarly, when we choose to love, we are "creating" a relationship daily. We are not finding a finished product; we are building a sanctuary through repeated, intentional actions. The Mechanics of the Choice From a spiritual lens, love is often defined
Just as spiritual faith is tested in moments of silence, love is tested in moments of friction. Choosing to love when your partner is "unlovable" is the highest expression of this sophistication. Similarly, when we choose to love, we are
We often stop "seeing" our partners, replacing them with our frustrations. Choosing love means intentionally looking for their virtues and expressing gratitude for them. Choosing to love when your partner is "unlovable"
How does one "choose" love when the feeling isn't present? It involves several daily disciplines:
Love is a verb. It is expressed through "Acts of Service" or "Words of Affirmation." By performing the actions of love, the feelings of love often follow—a phenomenon psychologists call "action-generated emotion." Why This Perspective Saves Relationships
When we believe love is an emotion, we become "love-consumers." We stay as long as the product (the feeling) is being delivered. When the feeling fades, we assume the love is gone and leave.